Read more There is a definite spectrum of normal behavior when it comes to dating.
If you get lucky, you will find yourself on a date with someone who is polite, reliable, and overall good company.
We may be imagining all sorts of problems that may or may not exist or we’re rationalising our own boundaries, values, and even prior experiences of being in one of these situations (so knowing that we may struggle with the emotional consequences) and are thinking along the lines of, ‘Well…
I’m of a certain age so I need to prepare myself for turning a blind eye to any code amber / red actions and indications because people in this age group tend to be recently broken up / separated / divorced‘. There’s no easy answer to the question of what the ‘right time’ is for dating a separated or recently divorced person.
What you have to keep in mind is that separated is still married until the divorce is finalised and that means that there’s likely to be emotional as well as legal ties.
It would be handy if we could avoid the vulnerability that comes with doing the due diligence and taking appropriate action where needed.
When it’s unhealthy—or just not the right match—it can literally...
Read more They say you never know a good thing till it's gone.
Recognize that you can't compare a long-distance relationship to one based on physical proximity.But when it comes to breakups, there’s another phrase that rings true: hindsight is 20/20. I’ve been taking myself on dates—going to dinner or lunch by myself, or taking myself to the movies alone.In the aftermath of a messy split, it can be hard to have clarity. Sometimes, I’ll wander around an antique store, or enjoy a leisurely stroll through the Farmer’s Market....What we forget is that even if a person hasn’t just exited a relationship, aside from knowing our own boundaries (which can rule out certain things that we’ve already made a decision on in advance of), we cannot get all of the answers upfront or have someone tell us what ‘the ending’ will be.Each situation is different but what you can say with a high degree of certainty is that someone who’s just fallen out of their marriage, who’s still in reconciliation negotiations, who’s still very influenced by their spouse, and who has been separated for a long time ‘just because’, is going to bring pain into your life.